The Marriage Bed – Pt. 2

September 7th, 2010

romanticbedDaniel and Sarah lay quietly in each other’s arms basking in the communication they just shared. Daniel tightens his grip around his wife and gently kisses her as he whispers in her ear, “I love you.” Sarah softly caresses his arm around her but as she responds with her own, “I love you,” she feels an uneasy twang rising in her stomach. Closing her eyes, she drifts off to a moment stolen in time. She sees herself, the willing participant, pinned against a wall and locked in the embrace of Michael, who rendered her helpless as he passionately kissed her mouth and neck as his hands explored her body. She shudders at the thought and tries hard to put it out her mind to focus her attention on her husband. Daniel laughs quietly and says, “Yea baby, I’m still feeling it too.” She turns to face him and with tears welling up in her eyes, she says, “I love you so much. I don’t know what I’d do if I lost you.”

“Well, you don’t have to worry about that baby; I’m not going anywhere.”

She nestles in his arms, breathing in his cologne, which takes her on another journey in her mind. There in the door of their beach house, wind blowing through her hair, she’s looking out over the waters silently thanking God for blessing her with such a good man. Caught up in the majestic scenery, she did not hear the footsteps approaching her until she felt his breath on her neck. Turning to embrace her husband, she jumps suddenly as she sees Michael and not her husband Daniel.

Question: Could fantasies between married couples be considered adultery?

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OK, what is adultery, or is the better question, what do most people consider adultery to be? Jesus said in Matthew 5:27 – 28,
27Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
28But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Adultery (Greek: moicheia) – unlawful sexual intercourse, illicit connection with a married person, marital infidelity; covers any form of unfaithfulness

Most people consider adultery to mean extramarital intercourse but Jesus expanded the act to include lusting after another. Adultery affects the family dynamics, of course. Love and affection should be reserved for your own spouse but many people, nowadays, reach outside the marriage with the excuse to “spice up” the marriage. Umm hmm, yea, poppycock, but let’s just assume one’s marriage did need a little spicing up. Is an extramarital affair, really the answer? Of course not! Well, what’s a couple to do? Glad you asked.

To be sure, we are not advocating “open marriages,” as is the case many of our Hollywood favorites are doing. See that’s just a way of popularizing the idea but that goes against God’s order. Marriage does not have to be boring and one does not have to go outside of or include others in the marriage. Use your imagination, get creative, and spice up your own marriage.

See, this is where most get this thing all twisted. You are footloose and fancy free before you get married, and then after marriage you turn into a prude, what gives? Many would do well to remember the scripture that says, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge,” Hebrews 13:4. Now this does not give you a carte blanche ticket to do just whatever, but it does it give you liberty to have fun in your marriage. The Message Bible puts it this way, “Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.” Sacredness is partially defined as, reverently dedicated to some person, purpose, or object; regarded with reverence; secured against violation, infringement, etc., as by reverence or sense of right. One is to guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy dedicated to their spouse; you guard it, not lock it up.

To defile the marriage bed is to go against established laws God set in place. Leviticus 18 gives a whole list of unlawful sexual relations. Basically, you aren’t to bring anyone into the marriage bed except your own spouse. So what can you do to spice up your marriage? You and your spouse can play out your fantasies but make sure, when you fantasize about Pete, the firefighter, or Fifi, the waitress, that Pete is your husband and Fifi is your wife. Don’t be putting Frank’s face and body on Pete and Sissy’s bumps and curves on Fifi. Alternatively, take a visit to Victoria’s Secrets or Frederick’s of Hollywood, or if you are bold enough, an adult store; just be sure to keep it in check and in balance. Spice up your marriage, re-spark the romance, and live out your fantasy, WITH YOUR OWN SPOUSE! Games, dress-up, role-play, well that’s up to you and your spouse. Have fun, be free, and keep it interesting. Understand if you don’t, someone else will be glad to. Your spouse may not reciprocate, but that does not mean that that person on the outside won’t try. Many of the sins that are causing Christians to fall are sexual ones; do not give your spouse a reason to even think he/she has to look elsewhere. This is what needs to be taught in the Church. Take care of your spouse and keep the marriage bed pure.

We will come back to this and deal with other subjects, such as intimacy in marriage and family order in another note.

The Marriage Bed – Pt. 1

August 24th, 2010

Their eyes met and locked on each other and they were captured in a moment of time all to themselves. She gazed seductively at him as an unconscious grin beamed on his face in response to her subtle movements. He was hardly taken aback by the growing warmth in his pants as he watched her softly lick her lips and fingers and gently caress her breast line in a slow, sweeping motion. His eyes had fastened on her when Helen’s abrupt embrace snatched him out of the fantasy he had spiraled into. As he wrapped his arms around his wife to reciprocate her affection, she, snuggling in his arms, noticed his aroused state. Assuming it was from thoughts of her, she whispered softly to her husband, “Oh, I see someone is already reveling in our getaway celebration.” He drew her closer, gently kissing her forehead while, unbeknownst to her, earnestly surveilling the lobby for the woman in red.

OK, Question: Is getting “freaky” allowed in marriage?

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Marriage is an institution ordained by God. Genesis 2:22 – 25 states,
22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman, for she was taken out of man.”
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and [cleave] be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

According to scripture, marriage is the union between a male and female. Jesus re-affirmed this in Matthew 19:4-6,
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and [cleave] be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate [put asunder].”

Anatomically speaking, the male and female bodies complement and accommodate one another. Men are supposed to be attracted to women and women to men; that is the order. However, since there is so much immorality we are instructed, “to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband,” 1 Corinthians 7:2.

Men are to “leave their father and mother and cleave to their wives.” Cleave is a very strong word. In Greek, the word is proskollao – to glue or cement together, stick to, adhere to, join firmly. The addition of “pros” to “kollao” intensifies the relationship of husband and wife. Proskollao includes faithfulness, loyalty, and permanency in relationships. Therefore, the union between a man and woman as husband and wife goes far beyond physical attraction. This is why, included in traditional wedding vows, a question and response exchange takes place where the man and the woman are both asked, “Wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband, to live together in the holy estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him, so long as ye both shall live? Having weighed the consequences of the commitment each are about to take, the logical answer should be, “I will.” The man and woman have now pledged themselves to each other.

It is understood that men and women will be attracted to each other, however, the attraction between husband and wife should more than cancel out any attraction for the opposite sex. This, again, is not to say that there won’t be any, because regardless of whether or not you are married, some of the opposite sex won’t care and will try you. Question is, will you remain faithful to your spouse; will you forsake all others and keep only to your own spouse? This should be a resounding, “YES.”

But now, what happens when someone of the opposite sex doesn’t play fair? Many people who have been trapped in adulterous affairs cite the reason saying, “He/She will do what my husband/wife won’t do.” Oftentimes, married couples get things a little twisted. It’s as if once you say, “I do,” all fun, romance, and play goes out the door. I’m not advocating that couples frequent the “XXX sex shops,” I’m just saying don’t let the romance fizzle from your marriage. It is OK to be freaky with your own spouse. If the two of you want to play a little dress up, to spice up the night, go ahead. If the two of you want to converge listening to soft melodic tones, go ahead. And if by chance the two of you do want to check out an adult store, have at it. Just be sure to keep it in check and in balance. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Marriage doesn’t give you a carte blanche ticket to do any and everything the flesh desires, but it gives you the opportunity to express your freedom. If you’re married, there may be an attraction to the opposite sex, but don’t get caught up in the lust thereof.

We will come back to this and deal with other subjects, such as adultery, intimacy in marriage, and family order in another note.

Spiritual Warfare: The Fight FOR Your Life

April 23rd, 2010

BlazingArchon With an everlasting love, God loves you. He sent Jesus to die for you, to redeem you from eternal torment and spiritual death. The devil, our enemy, on the other hand, cares nothing about you. Because you are a child of the King, he hates you and wants to destroy you, if he can’t get you to turn on God (cf. John 10:10). Satan is only our enemy by association; his opponent is God the Father. Because he can’t be the Big Boss, large and in charge, then he goes after everything and everyone connected to God. This feud is like that of the Hatfields and McCoys; they’ve been feuding so long it’s been passed down through generations. Like the Arabs and Jews, this fight has been perpetuated for centuries.

In the case of God vs. satan, this on-going feud involves us, mankind. Satan knows he cannot win, he knows he cannot overthrow God, but he goes after that God loves most, His people, His creation. If satan can get us to turn against God, then he finds a way to hurt God. It is His will that none should perish but if we willfully follow after that which God has forbidden, denied, and forsaken, the we become doomed to the same fate. In this manner, satan scores his victory. You know it hurts to have your own turn against you. Imagine that…your daughter, your son, your spouse, your mother, your father, etc. It is an describable hurt that stays with you.

Now satan paints a pretty picture. He entices people with all sorts of things: fame, fortune, prestige, power, influence, etc. and people fall for it all the time. He is the ruler, spiritual authority, and principality of the air. He can make things difficult for you, but God has all power in His hand and God is the final authority. What the enemy meant for your bad, God can and will turn around for your good. Now on the flip side, since he is all those things, he can make things good for you, but it comes with a cost. You can enter into an alliance, an allegiance with the devil here on earth and have it good, but the sacrifice is your eternal soul which will be condemned to hell with satan and his followers. We know that hell was not made for man but for satan and the fallen angels (cf. Matthew 25:41). What God offers is so much better, His rewards are for the here and now and extend into eternity.

Get it in your head, the enemy does not like you and he doesn’t play fair. He is not going to give you a break, he’s only devising his next plan of attack against you. He goes away for a season to recoup from his whoopin’ but then he comes back with a vengeance. Understand he has demons assigned to you or your region. Satan can’t be in more than one place at a time; he is not omnipresent like God, he is not omniscient nor omnipotent like God. You only come up on his radar when God makes a fuss about you. This comes about in one of three ways: when souls are saved, there’s advancement of the Kingdom, and God personally points you out.

See when someone gives their life to Christ, the Bible tells us the angels rejoice in heaven. Now you know that is no quiet fanfare. If you are on a mission to advance the Kingdom of God, then you re-claim territory held by satan. His minions have to come back and report that to him and he wants to know who is taking the hill, taking back territory. Then there are those times when God just plain ole point you out to satan like He did Job. When God points you out to the devil, He is trying you. He wants to see if you will hold up under the fire or will you take down and give in. Many have endured great hardships and many have taken down for a lot less. God knows what’s in your heart, but do you? The trying and testing of your profession of faith shows you where you are.

Spiritual warfare is good for you. It may not be fun to go through or endure but it builds you up in the Spirit and teaches you to stand on God’s Word, if that is the route you take. The battle rages on and the question is being asked, “Who’s side are you on?” You have to fight to win but God has already assured the victory!

The Easter Story

April 3rd, 2010

easter egg Oh I love to tell the story of how my Savior came from glory to save a wretch like me. True love is demonstrated by His unfailing love for me, the fact that He died and rose again!
Now with everything you know there are multiple sides of the story. I like to study the history behind the things we do in the name of holiness and especially when there are mixed traditions. Sometimes we mix things together that has no business being there; like Easter, Passover and Easter bunnies.
Glory and honor goes to the Messiah, Jesus Christ the Lord, who came and died for mankind that we might live and have life, and that life more abundantly. He suffered the penalty and humility of crucifixion and bore the sins of the world so that our sentence of eternal, spiritual death would be forgiven. I’m reminded of a song that says, “He didn’t have to die, He could’ve called angels to His side to carry Him away, but He decided to stay…at Calvary. Thank you for Calvary!” Did you get that? JESUS CHRIST DIED SO THAT YOU AND I MIGHT HAVE ETERNAL LIFE! He was “hung on display,” crucified, buried, and of His own accord, rose on the third day leading captivity captive and possessing the keys to death and hell. Then He ascended into heaven to sit on the right hand of God, thereby making intercession for you and me.
It was necessary for Jesus to die for mankind because we were condemned to death with the fall of Adam. Biblical law required a sacrifice to atone for sins and the sacrifice required had to be perfect, spotless, without blemish. For fallen, sinful mankind, Jesus was the only one who could satisfy the requirements. He loves us so much that He gave His life for us.
Of course, the age-old battle rages on. Our adversary walks around seeking those whom he may devour, stopping at nothing to accomplish this goal. His tricks and tactics have not changed. He still takes that which is holy and counterfeits it by suggesting it to some self-righteous “holy” man who then implements it into religious services dedicated to the Most High God. Many fall for this, some out of ignorance, some because of self-indulgence, and some because they just don’t know any better and they truly believe the lie. Thank God however, He always reserve a few, a remnant, who will not bow and who will at all costs, preserve the truth. God’s people should not be deceived by the father of lies or the lie he spins. We have the Holy Spirit within us who leads and guides us into all truth and knowledge. Because God loves us, He will not allow us to be led astray. His sheep hear His voice, know Him, are known of Him and follow Him. It’s when we allow ourselves to be caught off guard and distracted when we are so easily led astray by vulnerability. Faithful study of God’s word will keep us in line, especially when what we hear as God’s honest truth comes over the pulpit.
The enemy is very subtle and cunning. If we are not steadily in our word, it becomes so easy for us to be deceived. Many things that are passed down from generations gone by have become accepted without question. The traditions of Easter are just one of them. Christians in the world today observe Easter in many ways. The celebration of the resurrection of Jesus Christ, who died for the sins of mankind, has become very much diluted with pagan rituals. In fact, the term “Easter” is not even a Christian term but of Chaldean origin, it is one of the titles of Beltis, the queen of heaven. The people of Nineveh pronounced Ishtar identical to the way we pronounce Easter today in this country. Ishtar is a name identified with the goddess Astarte, who was worshipped not only as the incarnation of the Spirit of God but also as the mother of mankind. Very early, along with the Druids -the priests of the groves- worship of Astarte was introduced into Britain.
In the third or forth centuries, the festival from Church history in which we now call Easter, was observed quite differently in the Roman Church and was not even celebrated under the name Easter. At that time, the festival called Pasch, or the Passover, was observed by many professing Christians in commemoration of the death and resurrection of Christ. That festival originally fell around the same time as the Jewish Passover and was in no way idolatrous nor did it precede Lent. The question must then be asked, “Where then did this observance come from?” “The forty days’ abstinence of Lent was directly borrowed from the worshippers of the Babylonian goddess. Such a Lent of forty days, ‘in the spring year,’ is still observed by the Yezidis or Pagan Devil-worshippers of Koordistan, who have inherited it from their early masters, the Babylonians. Such a Lent of forty days was held in spring by the Pagan Mexicans… Such a Lent of forty days was observed in Egypt… The Egyptian Lent of forty days, was held expressly in commemoration of Adonis or Osiris, the great mediatorial god.”1 Thus we see the practice of Lent has a long, pagan history, which was adopted, doctored up, and passed on to the Church.
To the Pagans, Lent was an indispensable preliminary to the great festival held annually in commemoration of the death and resurrection of Tammuz. This festival was observed considerably later than the Christian festival. In Palestine and Assyria it was observed in June, in Egypt about mid May, and in Britain, it was observed some time in April. To resolve the differences of the Pagans and Christians, Rome took measures to merge the two festivals. By a complicated, but skillful manipulation of the calendar, it proved no difficult task to get Christianity and Paganism to shake hands. “This change of the calendar in regard to Easter was attended with momentous consequences. It brought into the Church the grossest corruption and the rankest superstition in connection with the abstinence of Lent. Let any one only read the atrocities that were commemorated during the ‘sacred fast’ or Pagan Lent,… and surely he must blush for the Christianity of those who, with the full knowledge of all these abominations, ‘went down to Egypt for help’ to stir up the languid devotion of the degenerate Church, and who could find no more excellent way to ‘revive’ it, than by borrowing from so polluted a source…”2
Christians do not need to borrow or acquire anything from the world. All that we ever need is found in Christ. Yet repeatedly, Satan has his pawns in strategic places willing and ready to do his bidding. At times, we are so caught up in the tradition that we forget about the reason behind the season. We are familiar with the traditions that have ended up being celebrated by Christians all over; Christmas with Santa Claus, and Halloween, for example. Many Christians do not buy into the commercialized versions of these holidays; however, there are some churches that wholeheartedly embrace them; from displaying Christmas trees, acting out the events of Christ’s birth followed by Santa Clause bringing gifts to the children, to hosting Easter egg hunts with the Easter bunny. Many just do not understand the consequences of the subtle deception that has been downplayed throughout the years. If a Christian becomes desensitized to the paganistic roots, then little by little the truth can be attacked and chipped away until the only thing left is the deception itself.
God will not allow this to happen! He raises people up to be unwavering voices that are needed in a society gone corrupt and led astray by their own deceitful lusts. This time of year, parents are going broke trying to buy the biggest Easter baskets for their children, and trying to buy up all the eggs in the store to dye them, hide them, and then have their children find them.
“In ancient times eggs were used in the religious rites of the Egyptians and the Greeks, and were hung up for mystic purposes in their temples.”3 The Babylonian classic poets tell of a fable about a great mystic egg. Bear with me as I relay this story and then we will see the significance of the egg.
“An egg of enormous size was said to have fallen from heaven into the river Euphrates. The fish rolled it to the bank where the doves” (keep in mind that a dove is symbolic of the Holy Spirit) “settled upon it and caused it to hatch. Venus (later called the “Syrian Goddess” – that is Astarte or Easter) thus emerged from the egg. The egg then became the symbol of the goddess.”
Now the hidden meaning in this is, the mystic egg served a twofold purpose in that not only did it carry to earth Astarte, the “Queen of Heaven,” but it also gave reference to the ark during the time of the flood. It is believed, by some, that the whole human race was shut up in the egg. How mankind fell for such an atrocity came through more clever trickery and manipulation. See, the sacred egg of Paganism is known as the “mundane” egg, the egg in which the world was shut up in. “World” has two distinct meanings– the material earth, or the inhabitants of the earth. Other civilizations had their own version of this story as well and to preserve the sacredness of the egg and carry it over into Christianity, it took an act of the Romish Church. They adopted the mystic egg of Astarte and consecrated it as a symbol of Christ’s resurrection. Where’s the connection, I don’t get it, but they made it fit with a form of a prayer that was connected to it. Pope Paul V taught his superstitious votaries to pray in this manner at Easter,
“Bless, O Lord, we beseech thee, this thy creature of eggs, that it may become a wholesome sustenance unto thy servants, eating it in remembrance of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Huh? What does the Bible say on this matter? Nothing, it is absolutely silent because an egg was not the subject at hand. Yet the egg is sacred to some and even used in temple rituals as a symbol of blessing and fertility.
Fertility? Temple prostitutes performed ritualistic practices in the temple as worship to the egg. Colored eggs were set upon the altars as sexually perverted, licentious acts were performed to the queen of heaven. The Easter bunny I guess was just thrown in there for diffusion. It still served the same purpose because rabbits are known to be fertile animals, yet they are soft and cuddly and not as offensive as worship to a goddess.
Easter baskets filled with goodies were symbolic of baskets of “buns” which were sacrificed to the gods. In reference to this, Jeremiah addressed a play on words. A certain type of sacred bread offered to the gods was called Boun and was made of fine flour and honey. Jeremiah knew these types of sacrifices were taking place when he said in Jeremiah 7:18, “The children gather wood, the fathers kindle the fire, and the women knead their dough, to make cakes to the queen of heaven.” It was going on then and it is still going on today, in a watered down kind’ve way. Those who practice this, the Easter festivities of dying eggs, egg hunts and Easter baskets, probably do not know what they are really doing. It could be out of ignorance but if the Greater One lives on the inside of you, surely He would let you know something is not quite right with that picture. Perhaps you weren’t paying attention when the Teacher was teaching. The Holy Spirit will lead you into all truth if you are open to receive it. Once you know the truth, perhaps you will feel convicted enough to gladly give up the tradition. Children will not die if they do not get Easter baskets and they won’t go into cardiac arrest if they do not dye eggs to hide and seek; but some parents act like they will. However, children will be destroyed following in this tradition and never knowing the truth because the Bible tells us that we are “destroyed for lack of knowledge,” Hosea 4:6. Our children only know what we teach them. That is why the Bible says to “train up a child in the way that he should go,” for when he gets older, he will not depart from the way of truth.
Let’s not continue to desensitize ourselves or our children. Understand the subtleness behind the deception and let us turn from our wicked ways.
“He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit is saying!”

Trivia Challenge Question

March 17th, 2010

KBM’s Trivia Challenge Question is still going on! No correct answer has still been submitted yet so read the question
again and here is another hint…

***Hint: Read Isaiah chapters 44 – 45. (Even if you don’t answer the TCQ, it’s still good Bible reading!)

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TCQ: Which king did God have Isaiah to call out by name and what was this king supposed to do?
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